When you are considering a divorce, it would be so nice if someone could just call if for you, tell you whether to stay or to go. Sometimes there’s not a clear-cut reason to leave, but you can’t imagine growing old with your partner. How do you know if the marriage is “fixable” and worth working on? If you’re not sure, spend some real time together, away from cell phones and interruptions. If you get to the point where you can’t stand this person, then the marriage is probably over. It takes two to get married but only one to get divorced.
The other question to consider is whether this is a Me or a We issue; if you’re unhappy, a divorce won’t necessarily fix that. Marriage can last 50 years and you’ll experience a lot of changes together. Sometimes people grow in different ways or at different times but can still come back to center with each other.
Expert Lisa Ryan does a great job of identifying some signs that can point you in the direction of staying or going. You’re really the only one that can make the decision but this video will give you some indicators as to what to do about it.
Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.