If you dealing with a Narcissist or even someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can make a divorce that much more difficult.
Even though there are some distinctions between the actual personality disorder and someone with narcissistic tendencies, in general this person feels complete superiority, has no empathy, a strong sense of entitlement, and will never own their failings in the relationship. They will never say “I’m sorry.” Because he feels victimized, hurting you becomes more important than anything else.
Therapy is unlikely to work with narcissists, so the best strategy is to change your behavior. Anarcissist thrives on the interaction, so don’t engage. If they say something terrible about you to the kids, don’t get defensive, but ask your kids questions, like, “does it bother you or hurt you when mom/dad says that?” It can be so frustrating to let it go, but it’s like pulling oxygen from a fire.
Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.