#1: Personal Leadership: You are in a very visible role. Your kids and family are watching. Be conscious of your choices and how you talk about the other parent. You can choose victim, but don’t. Have honor and integrity and choose leadership
#2: No Sudden Movements: When something triggers you, don’t react. Maybe you want to send a nasty email to your ex, but take 24 hours to think. In short, don’t make any big decisions during this time in your life.
#3: Self-Sufficiency: this includes financial, social and emotional sufficiency. You want to build in time with friends. And emotional sufficiency—no one is responsible for your sadness. You can rush off to online dating to fill the hole, but don’t. Have the courage to be ALONE. This will be hard and sad in the beginning, but it’s a skill that you can learn. It’s interesting how the best relationship will come to you when you are independent emotionally and don’t need anyone but yourself.
Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.