Top Ten Things No One Tells You
with Laura Campbell

Laura Campbell sheds light on some key emotional aspects of divorce...awareness is the first step to feeling less alone in this process!

If SingleProcess appeared on David Letterman with the “Top Ten List” it would be this: The top ten things no one tells you about divorce. I was shocked by what I didn’t anticipate. Everything changes, so here is a heads up on the real deal of divorce!

#1: It’s a lonely road and it should be. You need time to sort through your card pile and create your new path

#2: Bad Behavior speaks for itself: it’s so tempting to dis your ex but saying less is more.

#3: Put your oxygen mask on first: in reality, our kids are as good as we are. You have to take care of yourself

#4: Nothing is fair. Stop looking for fairness and accept that you are where you are. You may not have wanted your divorce, but you’re there.

#5: There are solutions everywhere: get your team. It’s too hard to do alone.

#6: It’s all about you: This doesn’t mean selfish. It means that if you don’t take time to get yourself healthy and whole, you are no good for anyone.

#7. No way to predict the future: Hard to see beyond your immediate pain or discomfort. But many good things are coming and if you focus on the good stuff, it all falls into place

#8: Sucker Punches: something will trigger you out of nowhere and it will knock the wind out of you. You will be surprised by the emotional impact that a random moment or memory may have on you.

#9: You have so much to learn: Maybe you’re the victim of infidelity and you want to put all the blame on the other party. There is still something to learn about your role.

#10: Divorce can actually be the catalyst to a new and better life. Really! Can you imagine finding the right love for you at this stage in your life? It’s magic.

About the Author Barb & Jo

Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.