Sex, Love and Romance Post Divorce
with Laura Campbell

If you’re at the divorce stage, it’s likely that you haven’t had much intimacy or sex in your life for a while. We see friends that rush out and start dating immediately after separating and it looks too soon. But you may have lived alone emotionally for years already. It’s OK. You are an adult and you can decide when you are ready emotionally.

Sex and love are good things. The rules have changed and you can have sex outside of a relationship successfully; the key is that both parties need to be honest with each other. If not, it can be hard emotionally, especially for women. Define what it is.

When it comes to your kids, they do not need to know the details of your dating life. When you have a date, you are “out with friends”, or you’re “going out”. If they can handle it, explain that you are in a transition and you are meeting new people in your life. And if you meet someone special and you get in a relationship, you will let them know.

Take your dating outside of your town. It’s no one’s business, but you still don’t want to invite gossip. You may feel like you need to justify your behavior, but you don’t. Be sensitive to your kids and your family’s reputation, but it’s OK to explore new relationships. You have one life to live. Is that a Soap still?

About the Author Barb & Jo

Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.