Choosing A Mediator with Michael Becker

If you’ve decided on the process of mediation, you want to pick the right one. This is the person that is going to get you to the finish line and tell you what is worth fighting about.

The right mediator is someone you trust and have comfort with. This is someone calm who can navigate you both through this horrible storm.

You want to pick someone with experience, but backgrounds of mediators can vary dramatically; some have legal backgrounds and some are more therapeutic. Meet with him or her and make sure you get along and have chemistry.

A good mediator is a good listener, which means hearing the REAL issue. For example, you say you want to keep the house, but really you want the kids to feel stable and be able to finish in their school district. The solution isn’t necessarily keeping the house, and a mediator will present a range of other options that works best for everyone.

About the Author Barb & Jo

Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.