Three Questions to Ask Yourself
with Christine Marie

Are you still in love with your partner and can you make it work?  People want to know whether to stay or go.  Maybe you’re not in love anymore and the romance has worn off, but you still have admiration and respect. 

What is love supposed to feel like?  It depends.  If you’ve been putting the time into the relationship, love may feel like a great bond, a solid comfort.  But I you haven’t been putting in the time, you may not feel the love.  You also might love your life, but not your partner.  Maybe that's enough!  It could be your identity, your comfort zone.

How do you feel about being physical?  If you touch your partner and you cringe, that’s not good.  The physical component of a romantic relationship is a vital piece, especially to men. 

Is there still trust and respect?  At SingleProcess we feel like a partner that has been unfaithful, or sneaky, is tough to stay with.   You may feel doubt creeping in every time (s)he’s late, or texting.  And respect is tough because you want to admire your partner and value her/his position. 

These three things are important because divorce is not something to rush into.  It’s a tough choice, so take the time to go through counseling, think about what’s really going to happen if you stay or go, and make a plan.

About the Author Barb & Jo

Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.