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Three Marriage Killers with Lisa Ryan


What are the three top marriage killers? At Single Process, we thought it was more like thirty things, but apparently working on these three things will make a huge difference.

#1: Work. Work can be a marriage killer because it takes such a big chunk of your time. Plus, you’ve more than likely increased your lifestyle and expenses over time, so you are trapped on that work, hamster wheel.

#2 KIDS: a lot of couples put the kids first, but what you should really make number one is your relationships. Kids go away but marriages can last a long time. It’s a good thing to show your kids that you need time for the marriage.

#3 Devices. Phones, tablets, computers….no one gets your full attention anymore and the message you send is that you aren’t as whatever has your attention. My dad told me once the he walked out of a big interview because the guy took a phone call during their meeting. The message he got was that he just wasn’t that important to the company.

Lisa Ryan talks about how you can fix it, mostly by realigning your priorities. Self-care is important, your marriage or relationship second, then kids. You’re going to have to learn to say “no”, set boundaries and schedule time together. Sex is a part of this, and yes women need an emotional connection to have sex, and men need sex to make an emotional connection! Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

About the Author Barb & Jo

Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.