Creating Your Relationship Playbook
with Candace Brindley

It’s unlikely that you’re going to fall into a successful long-term relationship unless you’ve done some planning.  That may have just taken all the romance and chemistry out of dating for you, but the right partner doesn’t just happen.  Dating Expert Candace Brindley suggests creating your own Dating Playbook to identify the critical factors in a potential partner.  Not only will you find your person, you won’t waste time on the wrong type of people.  

Author and relationship expert Dr. John Gottman suggests that 70% of marriages fail because life purpose is incompatible!   So take the time to know what’s important to you before you consider a long-term partner.   

There are 4 categories:

  1. Life Purpose: this is a statement about your gifts/talents that’s unique to you.  
  2. Values:  things like Self Growth, Authenticity, Honesty…
  3. Who do you want to impact in this life?
  4. Deal-breakers:  no matter how great this person is, if this one thing is missing, you walk away. May be about children, or politics, religion….  

Also worth noting is your physical and emotional compatibility.  If you like to touch and your partner doesn’t, the relationship is at risk.  This may seem obvious, but people date out of fear, afraid that there are so few options out there that they need to compromise.  NO!  Once you know your values and your deal-breakers, the right partner will magically appear.  You end up gravitating toward the right places where you’ll ultimately meet the right type of partner.

About the Author Barb & Jo

Through the process of our own divorces, Barb Hazelton and Jo Briggs learned more than they ever needed or wanted to know. Through their friendship, shared experiences, and connections through navigating their own divorces, they created this video series. They've been where you are and they hope Single Process can make it easier for you by connecting you to their resources.